Wednesday, July 7, 2010

Emperor as Philosopher

Was wandering through a recently opened exhibit on the art of Ancient Rome today when I came across a statue that caught my eye. Well, in all honesty the very regular-looking contrapposto figure wasn't all that stunning, but the caption was. "Emperor as Philosopher" it read, and then went into some detail about who the (now headless) figure might have portrayed, but I was stuck on the caption. Emperor as Philosopher? Emperor as the foundation of academia and religion?

(queue bad segue music - but it is really what got me thinking and writing today)

Lately I have been doing a lot of thinking about the cross-section between politics and religion. I have come to some basic understandings in regards to my personal beliefs and how they play out in the way I act politically. I feel like I have done my part in sorting out what I believe for the most part and don't have to try to convince, persuade or defend my position to anyone but myself, except for the lively banter between friends. However, I've gotten tired of candidates' religion being the 'meat' of the political platform from almost any area of the political spectrum - "Yes, I heard you the first fifty times you said you were a 'Christian', now please tell me what you actually plan to do in office and stop posturing". (And if all else fails, I can check your voting record). I have gotten tired over the years of politicians claiming to be 'Christian' (or even 'religious') and not following the moral or ethical codes from any religion I've ever found. I've come to expect religious affiliation from those in office and don't imagine it will change any time soon.

My political/religious dichotomy lies not only in this learned skepticism but also in a plentiful history of political endorsements from organizations that end up leading people astray rather than educating them and letting them make their own informed decisions.  Perhaps it is because I am more worried about actual evidence of morals than someone being able to quote the Ten Commandments or perhaps I've just become too cynical to actually believe what Mr. Smith says on his way to Washington.

Tuesday, April 13, 2010

The Golden Rule Still Applies...

...Unless You're A Sado-Masochist*

I have trouble resolving my a) desire to make a change in the lives of those less fortunate than myself and b) my incredibly cynical, skeptical perspective. One day I want to give away all my money and help the little old lady who's living on a fixed income, all of it (gone before she sees it paying for health-care premiums and filling prescriptions) and gets a minuscule $10 in food stamps each month. She tells me she's okay. "Honey, I get by. Just eat cheap; a little bread, a little water". It makes me want to cry and send her a tear-stained check. I can put off Starbucks for a month and she could have something other than bread and water for dinner next week. The next day I hear about those cheating on taxes, lying to get benefits they don't deserve, stealing food for their already bloated bellies and I want to rant and rave about how dishonest people are and how our society is full of liars and cheats.

I can't comprehend the people that ignore the need in the world with a social-Darwinian attitude or those that brush over the deception with a "that's the way the world works so just let it be". While I embrace -and at times, love- my broken world, I subconsciously long for something better, something perfect, something where the cheaters are always caught and those that are truly hungry are always fed.

That being said, here's a shameless plug: Next week is National Volunteer Week. Take a day or an hour and support your community and those in need around you. Or even take five minutes or 30 seconds to show a random act of kindness and brighten someone's day.

*I just couldn't resist. You can thank the following website for the title: Humorous Volunteerism Anecdotes

Thursday, February 11, 2010

The Problem With Problematizing Singleness, or Happy Valentine's Day

Sometimes, when I’m in need of a good laugh, I peruse the Internet for Christian resources on singleness. Not because I’m a desperate single guy or living in dread of my singleness, but because I’m morbidly curious to see what the Church is making of this always popular subject of singleness. You may notice that I do not employ the use of the term “singles.” Since reading a book on chastity and the Church by Lauren Winner (Real Sex), I’ve determined to strike the word “single/s” from my terminology, at least as a noun. After all, we don’t refer to married couples as “marrieds,” do we? (If you do, nod your head in agreement, pretend that you don’t, and resolve to rid your speech of that word in the future.)

Singleness among Christians—and perhaps among non-Christians as well—seems to be a perplexing “problem” to many people, both single and non. Therein lies the actual problem. If we start with the precept that being single is some kind of a negative quality, a deficiency or a failure, or that it’s a plan not yet brought to fruition, we start with a pernicious and often damaging lie. Jesus, you may recall, was a single man (romantically speaking) for his entire time on earth, despite any arguments to the contrary by Martin Scorcese or Dan Brown. The Apostle Paul wrote passionately about the benefits of long-term singleness, while also pronouncing the inherent goodness of marriage. 

One of the lies we have fooled ourselves into believing is that singleness is a problem, and that, consequently, marriage is a solution. I’ve known friends in college who seemed sure of this logic. My own impression is that a marriage that’s established in order to “solve” someone’s feelings of inadequacy as a single person is a badly formed marriage. It recalls the famous line in the movie adaptation of Tennessee Williams’ Cat on a Hot Tin Roof: “How can one drowning man save another?”
The church seems to have two responses: one is the sympathetic approach, where well-meaning church members take poor, pathetic “singles” under their wing. The other is the overcompensation approach, where the term is embraced with a phony sense of glee as a gift like none other. Neither seems to be worth much, because both rely on that same faulty premise that singleness is a problem. 

One thing Lauren Winner’s book impressed upon me was the need for the church to radically rethink its idea of the Body of Christ—the community of believers. The way Winner describes it, “there should always been an odd number of chairs at your dinner parties,” demonstrates perfectly the healthy practice of a community of believers, where we truly embrace the meaning of the Body, and rely upon each other, sharing in our community and understanding each other better. 

The problematizing of singleness seems to go hand-in-hand with the issue of church segregation, where everyone seems divided by age and marital status within the church. The result of this attempt to get people into common communities is that nobody seems able to relate to different members of the Body. It stands to reason that an 85-year-old widower might have something to share, some unique perspective on life, to pass on to the 35-year-old family man or the 22-year-old college student. And that works each way. Young Christians often have a vitality—a fervent sense of urgency in them—that hasn’t yet been squashed by the cynicism of the “real world.” Christians who have moved past that stage have probably gained much wisdom and experience, and perhaps at the expense of that passion for life. It goes without saying that there is value in both, and that the real problem is a fear of true community, true living of the Gospel, not a fear of staying single forever.

How many times have I heard my parents or someone else’s parents turn to us kids and caution us, “don’t ever get married”? How many times have I heard a joke on a sitcom implying that intimacy fades after couples take that enormous step into marriage? In one episode of Mary Tyler Moore, Mary is handed the task of explaining the “Birds and the Bees” to her neurotic neighbor’s daughter, Bess, who’s 12. Bess asks Mary if love and sex always have to go together, and Rhoda, Mary’s best friend, interjects, “of course not. Just ask any couple who’s been married ten years.” It’s funny because it’s true. There seems to be something about the routine and the business of life that drains the intimacy: the excitement fades or the energy and the time for spontaneity simply aren’t there anymore, for various reasons. My point here is that marriage has lots of problems too, and that it’s not some kind of lucky break for the single person to find marriage. 

Loneliness is a common fear among single people. We often wonder, even if we’re content in our lives now, if someday we’ll wake up bitter and talking to the untold numbers of cats that have flocked into our homes. I don't make a habit of watching Desperate Housewives, but recently I did sit down and watch one episode. One of the women on the show discovered she was pregnant with twins. She was in her early 40s, and had just sent the youngest of her four children off to college. Sensing the excitement of a new chapter in her life, she was absolutely devastated to learn that she was pregnant again. (Her husband, however unrealistic this might be, was elated, on the other hand). Not only did she feel devastated about this unexpected twist in her plans, she felt incredibly guilty that she did not want to have the children. In a particularly grim but hilarious scene, she encounters a glowing young mother-to-be in the waiting room of the doctor’s office, and sets the record straight on being a mom: “you’ll be lonelier than you’ve ever been, but you’ll never actually be alone.” Not to belabor the point, but I think this scene demonstrates just how lonely married people can become. Look at the divorce rate—which is equally high among Christians as it is among non-believers. 

Perhaps I’ve run the risk of disparaging marriage in an attempt to argue that it’s not a solution. I don’t believe all marriages are empty or lonely. I believe loneliness can and will enter everyone’s lives—single or not—at some point. We have to turn to Jesus rather than our statuses, and we must have a firm sense of community where we can go, not just for our own encouragement and benefit, but where we can stop focusing inwardly and start focusing outwardly, delving into other people’s lives as they delve into our own, as the body of Christ. Hopefully then we will understand singleness as an aspect of rather than a problem in our lives. It’s no more perfect than being married, but it’s also not a punishment or an exile. Although you may start to develop a fear of choking alone in your apartment. (30 Rock anyone?)

Tuesday, January 5, 2010

Give Me Rallying Points!

Rallying Points Amidst Differences

When I first started on this post, I wanted to show how despite all the End Times arguments, debate on infant versus believer's baptism, and Eucharistic squabbles there are truths around which Christians across denominations can come together, such as those included in the Nicene or Apostles' Creed. One of the biggest issues that seems to shoot this down is the debate on absolute truths in the church today. I, for one, am a middle-ground person. I recognize that there are some absolute truths, but I believe that they are far fewer than many would like us to believe.

My question is, are there rallying points for modern Christians today? Whether you believe in interpretative or literal Creation Story, Catholic or Evangelical, conservative or liberal, Pre- or Post-Millenial, Pre-Trib, Post-Trib -whatever!- is this really that hard to agree on? Can this simple statement of 110 words be so controversial or can it be unifying?

The Apostles' Creed

I believe in God the Father Almighty, Maker of heaven and earth:
And in Jesus Christ his only Son our Lord,
Who was conceived by the Holy Ghost,
Born of the Virgin Mary,
Suffered under Pontius Pilate,
Was crucified, dead, and buried:
He descended into hell;
The third day he rose again from the dead;
He ascended into heaven,
And sitteth on the right hand of God the Father Almighty;
From thence he shall come to judge the quick and the dead.
I believe in the Holy Ghost;
The holy Catholic* Church;
The Communion of Saints;
The Forgiveness of sins;
The Resurrection of the body,
And the Life everlasting.

*Would like to point out here that the general understanding of the word "catholic" in this context is not referencing the Catholic Church, but used to signify the unification of the universal Church (see definition).